Worldwide almost ten percent of women have no orgasm. Are they frigid? Definitely no. Ability to have an orgasm and frigidity are quite different.
Being frigid denotes not having an interest in sex. On the other hand there is a woman who genuinely loves sex while she is not able to achieve an orgasm.
And the reasons for it may be many.
After the sexual intercourse about 80 percent of women stayed unsatisfied, a study says. Take a sigh of deep relief - this is according studies done a hundred years ago! That is quite a while. Since then we know about sex much more. Our men have Viagra and we have a choice of contraceptive pills.
Does it matter if a woman has an orgasm?
In most cases yes. To have no orgasm can cause depression.
If she is not able to achieve an orgasm she does not miss one. In this case she lives a normal life and she is never depressed about having or not having it. Again, this is difficult to explain to your partner. Faking an orgasm is not the right way to go about it.
There are women who can get one only while masturbating. Never with their partner. This can put a stress on your man because he will assume it is his fault.
We have to understand it always takes two to it.
If you had a man who could satisfy you before and now you have one who cannot, then you have an obvious problem. How you solve it will depend on various circumstances. You might need counselling or therapies, sexual study or medical help.
The best is to be honest about it and share with your partner your 'darkest' thoughts.
When I say 'darkest' I do not mean it literally. You need to tell him what you feel, how you feel.
A good feedback is the best remedy.
Many of us assume man should be able to figure it all out. I ask you a simple question.
How on the earth he should know if we don not know?
Why? Because our erogenous zones keep changing at any time. If it is most pleasurable at a certain place now it does not mean the same will be in two minutes. This is the main reason why feedback is so important.
It helps you to give you more pleasure. By letting your partner know how you feel at particular moment.
You may do it by moaning or other signs depending on your sexual life.
And there are those who have orgasm too soon. And believe me, they are not happy as well.
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